Dulang girls is a must in every girls dream wedding. Or is it?

"why not? your wedding will end up dull and will seem like you don't have friends" - was my sister's respond when i told her i don't intend or wish to have dulang girls on my wedding.

The conversation begins when we were on our way back home from visiting her friend's newborn baby. I started asking her when her turn to get hitched is. Somehow, that short conversation deviates to about bridesmaids in weddings. She mentioned that few names are already in mind to be her dulang girls. 

Dulang girls for Awal Ashaari and Scha Al-Yahya Reception

Bridesmaids, a.k.a dulang girls, or sometimes we can call them flower girls, are just young pretty girls solely selected by the bride herself, typically her special friends or sisters, to be a part of the wedding party. Bridesmaids are thought to be responsible in attending the wedding ceremony and to assist the bride on the day of the wedding. They dress in unison, they held flowers or dulang, and most often, they had to pose with the married couple in the bridal photos. The more bridesmaids you have in a wedding signifies a family’s social status and wealth, and how grand the wedding party would be. For some, it is a pleasure to be called for a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding.

Personally, I regard bridesmaids, a.k.a dulang girls, as just another unnecessary minor element in a wedding, apart from the principal constituent of a wedding itself: wedding dress, wedding ring, and the whole wedding reception. It seems to just be another opportunity to show off the family’s social status and wealth, and partly, how famous and likeable the bride is to have a lot of friends supporting her wedding. 


I dont intend on having a huge wedding reception, and bridesmaids are not even an exclusive. Reason no. 1, wedding reception itself is already financially exhausting. To sponsor for their unison dresses is overwhelming. No one should look fancier or as fancy as you at the wedding. They should not be treated like a queen. They should not be the attention. Because, seriously, when you portray your wedding photos surrounded by beautiful bridesmaids, people don't look at how pretty the bride is. They look at the next potential bride-to-be among the bridesmaids. And in the end, wedding is about the bride and groom. Not bridesmaids. 


But, the choice is yours.